My Husband is a Cult Leader

Recently our room mate, Samara has been obsessed with the Myers-Briggs personality types. So Caleb and I decided to take a free test online to discover what ours were to satisfy her craziness.

Caleb got ENFJ.

He started to read what his personality type description was, and it went something like this….

ENFJ’s are natural born leaders, charismatic, and full of passion. They are often politicians, coaches, teachers and cult leaders. They are firm believers in people. They are genuine people that walk the walk, and talk the talk.

Caleb and I both agreed that this personality type pegged him. But the one thing that stood out to me was that he could be a ‘cult leader’. Since the test, I have been referring to him as our cult leader.

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Caleb the Cult Leader

• Green juice. Caleb had ‘special’ greens shipped over so he could drink to better health. So the both of us drank this nasty sludge everyday–Samara had no interest in drinking the juice. One day Caleb told her, “You know. If you drink the greens every morning. You will probably get a boyfriend.” Samara obliged and drank the juice. Later that day she was asked out on date. So, as you can expect, Samara kept drinking the greens. Cult Leader-You must have a special juice.
• Home Made Kefir Smoothies. Caleb makes a large batch of kefir yogurt with fresh cow’s milk every week. Then he makes a daily smoothie blended with fresh fruits for breakfast. Somehow our entire house hold drinks this smoothie now. He’s gone around, telling each individual in our household that they NEED to drink this smoothie because it will help your stomach. Even down to youngest of our family, Iris. Cult-ish.
• Education Reform. One cannot hang out with Caleb for long before witnessing his passion for education. He physically lives to see education bring change in every person’s life, including his own. His zeal for education has infected our entire household. Samara who once vowed she’d never get a degree in education, is currently completing her Master’s in teaching English as a second language. For myself, I am in my 3rd year as a preschool teacher. Even Get (Our Thai teenage daughter) aspires to be a teacher. Caleb’s passion for education reaches far beyond our household as well. He carries this vision into everything he does, and it draws the masses to him. Cult-like behavior: group think. If you would like to read more about his ideas on education click here, and here.
• Marathon Running. Caleb has completed many marathons and triathlons. He enjoys physical activity and endurance sports in his daily life. I don’t have the same interests, but I love to cheer him on. Last year, Caleb was signing himself up to do the Lincoln Marathon. In a matter of a few minutes myself and Samara were all signed up as well. The following months we were ALL training for long distance running. Never. Ever. Did I think that I would log that many miles of running in my life! Culty. Following the leader without question. Just do it.
• Community Life. This topic probably has most of our on-lookers thinking that we are a cult. There is truth to that because we have created a cult-ure in our community living.  We live life in community. We have our best friend, Samara that lives with our family of 4; two Thai teenagers, Joy & Get, and Dundee our dog. Recently I had a heart to heart talk with one of our teens. She bravely confronted me on some of my actions that were hurting her feelings. Which we talked through, and forgave one another. Beautiful, right? However, multiple times she told me how Caleb is greeeeat, and always happy–how she can talk to him so easily, and that he is her real Dad, and the lists goes on and on about how Caleb is so wonderful. Cult leader 101-charming the masses.

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I already drank Caleb’s Kefir-Cultured Smoothie this morning. I am a happy and obedient follower.

All joking aside, Caleb is one of the most passionate, idealistic leaders I have ever met. He authentically desires to see improvement in all people. He is ambitious, but not towards selfish ends. He feels personally responsible for making the world a better place: one person at a time.

ENFJ’s are the second rarest type of personality. I am so honored to be married to such a unique, motivating, and inspirational leader! I love you Caleb even if you are a cult leader.